So, you’re in a relationship, or pursuing one, maybe looking for a casual fling, or maybe you’re like me and have gone through the “admire from afar” phase.  Currently and amazingly, I am in a stable and long-lasting relationship of nearly two years.  I sometimes like to think I know what I’m talking about but the truth of relationships is that no matter whom it’s with or how happy you might be, you’ve signed up for a giant shit show.  I love my other half to death, but hot damn, it’s a rollercoaster not only between the two of you, but most of the difficult battles are internal.  No matter how much that person swears they admire you, or how beautiful or handsome they claim you are, you will ALWAYS find something wrong in yourself.  I’m here to tell you that you are not alone, nor will these things that we call insecurities ever fully settle. You will always think from time to time about how ridiculous you look standing next to that girl with the great ass, or that guy with those toned arms.  I have something to say: to hell with it all. There will always be someone more attractive than you or myself.  There will always be someone happier.  Remember these words from Dr. Seuss:

There is no one alive who is You-er than You.


Your significant other couldn’t care less about the people around you.  If they truly care, they find you and solely you interesting.  If someone doesn’t enjoy being with you when you’re acting like yourself, then it’s a terrible idea to try and pursue something that isn’t there!  Be confident in who you are, and embrace your weirdness, mystique, individuality, uniqueness, or whatever else you want to call it.  Be yourself, and if you haven’t found anyone who’s interested in your personality, then you’ll know they aren’t meant for you! If you can stick to your guns and be the independent, sexy, weird-as-hell person you are AND find that special person, they’re probably in it just for you, and not just for superficial reasons.  Winning someone over requires you to turn your insecurities into character traits.  Keeping someone requires you to buckle down and realize that sure you might not be the best looking, smartest, richest, or hottest person around; but damn, if you constantly act like you, then right person will love that about you.  If they don’t like who you really are, then there’s no reason to keep them around! Screw everyone else, and just be you.


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